Fast Fact: Children and Divorce

Only 63% of American children grow up with both biological parents (The State of Our Unions 2005 /National Marriage Project at Rutgers University), the lowest percentage in the world.

Let's face facts, that number is not going to improve anytime soon. Single parents are no longer the hidden minority. So what can we do to help our kids grow into happy, healthy adults? Plenty.

Doctor Jennifer Lewis of the website ChildrenandDivorce.com suggests putting together a Parenting Plan for both the custodial and non-custodial spouse. The plan puts the focus on raising a child in a healthy, non-combative atmosphere with detailed instructions for how family members will stay in contact, how holidays will be handled, and a schedule for visitations.

Says Lewis, children of divorce need parents "not necessarily married parents, or even cooperative parents, just a Mom and a Dad who they can trust."

If you're a divorced parent with children, here are a few of the most important points to keep in mind.

1. Tell the truth. Your kids deserve it.

2. Don't force your children to take sides. This is not their fight.

3. Stay involved in your child's life. Talk to them. Ask questions.

4. Keep the extended family involved. Grandparents also suffer in a divorce, don't cut them out of the loop.

5. Remember that love is unconditional. Love your children and make sure they know it.